PME(s) – The Negative Side Effects of Ignoring Change
Last week I wrote about Significant Emotional Events and the five stages of change we go through as a result of them. Here’s my first money back guarantee: If we do not learn how to manage our response to change we will end up with a Physical, Mental, or Emotional illness – GUARANTEED! All of us have that lower back that flares up when under stress. How about that sports injury or cramped neck. Are you a stress eater or do you forget to eat? How about this one, do you “take it out” on the ones around you – even when they had nothing to do with the change?
There are a few things to be aware of as we face our change events. They all have to do with pace.
Your Living Pace:
Do you get home after a long day and find yourself unable to sit down? Does your significant other comment on your inability to stop moving? Have you asked yourself why you can’t stop? Or do you come home and plant yourself on the couch never to move until everyone else has gone to bed? Are you lethargic? Are you late when you could have been on time?
All of these are signs that you have stored or ignored your feelings about the ongoing change and can be measured in other “pace” categories as well. For example, your eating pace, your speaking pace, your “take on a new challenge” pace; all of these are affected by your response to the change. And now that I have your are aware — you can do something about it. Take some time this week and make some personal observations on the pace of your life. Pay attention to how much Tylenol or Advil you take in a day or week. Watch for that chronic pain that seems to kick in at the same time every day (or worse, every time you see “that guy”). It will tell you a lot about where you are and create some urgency for you to make some adjustments in your life!
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