Common Denominators ???
We have all heard people say “I’m having a run of bad luck!” or “I’m the luckiest person alive!”. We equate luck with numbers. 13 Bad…7 good! Although this is mainly based on superstition and not reality. We can all recall superstitious stories that almost verify that these numbers related to luck, whether it be good or bad.
As a child, if you stepped on a crack it could break someone’s back! I spent my childhood jumping over cracks on the sidewalks to school everyday!
I’ve also heard on my almost 55 years on this earth, (and yes I feel lucky to see 55)……. Oh I am just soooo unlucky in love….uh…maybe you have just made bad choices over and over again in relationships…what’s that got to do with luck? What’s the common denominator?
We’ve heard that bad luck comes in three’s! I have always liked the number 3 and never understood why such a good looking number would be equated to bad luck. Personally I would think 4 would be unlucky, it just doesn’t flow as nice as three. Course having three children might be considered bad luck for the middle child, who is neither the baby or the oldest (I’m a middle child).
I’ve listened to drivers on the CB complaining about how their run of bad luck got them 3 speeding tickets in the last year. I met a driver that had 3 accidents in one year. I’ve seen on television people with 3 DUI’s in one year. Those same drivers are the ones calling out the location of the Highway patrol or DOT officers to all the other drivers, of course it’s because he didn’t want them to have the same bad luck as he has had.
I had a boss (for a very short time) that came in every day like hell on wheels (that kept spinning) never taking the time to say good morning, offer a smile, but walked in the door barking! Where’s this? Who did that? Why isn’t this done? and as a result everyone around him kept spinning wheels like on a sheet of ice, never getting anywhere because they were so nervous they would be the next in line to have their egos bruised over something they had no control over, or it wasn’t done correctly (even though they had never been given sufficient training on what they were to do, always fragmented pieces thrown at them, not the full picture). My co-workers eyes meeting every time he walked in the room, as if to say, yeah I’m with you, consoling before the tyranny began. We never heard, hey you did a good job, or I appreciate you. Ok! I’m not a wussy girl! But holy cats! People need a kudos on occasion to make it feel like your not going to crash through the ice. This boss couldn’t recognize the common denominator. Always complaining that nothing was done his way, nothing was going right…..guess what….the common denominator was him.
We’ve all heard this:
Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.
If your employees seem to be a bunch of knuckle heads, is it because you hired a bunch of knuckleheads, how could you have such bad luck! Maybe your not a people person and maybe it’s not just about the message, but the delivery of it? Where’s the common denominator?
Sooooo if you speed every time you get behind the wheel, is that bad luck? What is the common denominator, is that officer following you around waiting for you to speed? The driver that had 3 accidents in one year, bad luck, wrong place wrong time? What’s the common denominator?
Changing the common denominator:
It’s simply called taking responsibility! No, not just saying well I take responsibility for it…..You have to work at it! Meaning! Changing the behavior! Duh! Words without action doesn’t work! It’s just mindless words falling out of your mouth. Action please!!!
- You can make changes yourself
- You are not always right
- You don’t know it all!
- You can choose how you feel
- You can make a difference
- You are the only one that you can control
- You have to say I’m sorry on occasion
- You have to slow down when it’s icy!
- You have to follow the speed limit!
- There are so many have to’s, to not have bad luck!
Whats the common denominator in all those statements? Well if you don’t know by now, guess you don’t have your listening ears on….that’s ok, some of us take longer……..